i agree, it's a grey area, but either way you look at it, it's messed up. I've been the girl that they tell they love before. It's a very confusing situation to be in no matter what role you fill.
this guy is fucked up! i just got out of a relattionship like that. he was dating this girl and he told me they were breaking up, he just needed to get what she owed him, and while he's living with me, he's calling her off MY PHONE and telling her he loved me, but then would tell me he loved me, when he was with his best friend, he would talk shit about both me anad his "ex" and be trying to hook up with her. GUYS ARE FUCKED!