if u were oing out with a guy for 16 months and he always told u that u were the only one for him and that he didnt wana look at n e one else but then u found out he was looking at porn would u get upset
You should be open with him about it, maybe watch it together it all depends on you guys. Look, guys are super horny ALL the time, they have to get out that frustration ALL the time. I'm sorry but if you believe for one second that you're the only one he's looking at, he's spitting game all in your ear and heart. Boys/men are physical beings hince they have a penis, so everything for them is external. We have va jay jays, so everything for us is more emotional becuase we're internal beings. That's just my take on it, I think it makes a lot of sense. Just because he's looking at porn, doesn't mean he doesn't love you, he just really enjoys being sexual and that's normal. If he's doing it all the time, then there might be a problem. How old are you?
Yes i would very upset, because he lied not because he looked at porn. he should of not been ashamed of looking at it and just told me. insted of lieing and saying that he doesn't look at anyone else.
I personally think porn is a sexual perversion and not something I deem looking at to be good or normal. It’s an exploitation of women and men, that I find degrading not only to the ones doing it, but also to the ones looking at it. I think where the mind goes the man will follow and to me thinking about it is just the same as cheating and I would react accordingly. If you want smut, you can have smut, but you can’t have me at the same time, because I don’t want someone who wants smut! JMO
hmmmmmm..interesting...see i was going to ask if u ever attempted to watch with him and attempt to share something...however u stated that he gave u his word that he would stop and yet he still does....so he broke his word....for someone like me who has trust issues, this would be highly upsetting to me......sounds to me like he is an addict. in general addicts dont mean to break their word but are compelled by some unseen force...he likely knew this before u 2 got serious...what should have happened when u told him how u felt was an attempt at some common ground or compromise........something that would require both of u to make an equal sacrifice but stisfying both of your wants..perhaps making a movie starring just the two of u? and if u catch him he would only be reliving his imtimate moments with u..or maybe just watching one with him with an open objective mind... or maybe limit his access or like well if didnt take out the trash then no porn time..........he as someone else suggested could also just be a sex addict and if so...this may be his way of releasing all that pent up sexual tension....otherwise as with all other addicts he will come to look for gratification by any means....logic no longer works just primal desires....either way the 2 of you need to set aside ample time to discuss this as adults...no yelling..just a neutral talk....dunno if this helps any,;....sorry i tend to talk a bit much.