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What is a father?

I don't even get along with my own dad because of this question! He wants me to go back to my ex, who biologically fathered my two oldest children. However, he was abusive in every form of the word and uses the children as pawns to get to me. My fiance has raised them as if they were his own, spending more time and money on them in the first 6 months of our relationship than their "biological" father ever has since they were born! I say, my fiance is their dad.. my dad says their "biological" father is, so whose right?
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At 06:31 pm SickSister Said :
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Genetics don't make a father. Love does. I've never met my biological father. He denied me from the moment I was conceived. For that purpose, I have no interest in ever knowing or meeting him. I do have a dad. He was there since i was a baby. That's what matters.
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At 06:11 pm Lookin4TruLuv Said :
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I wrote a poem once about the difference between a father and a dad. A father is someone who so 'courteously' donated his genes to the child, but it not a healthy and/or active person in the child's life. A dad is is the male figure for the child who is a healthy influence, and provides love for the chid. I hope that helps.
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At 05:57 pm jbutler42591 Said :
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i think yer right i think that u should have yer fiance get him to say hes the dad cuz in there hearts that is what he is should be there biological father sounds like a really ass like my friends babies daddy he wants nuthin to do with his daughter n he lives right across the street from them n he never once came over to see her n im friends with both of them so i get caught in he middle but tell yer fiance he should say hes the childrens father cuz at heart thats wut he seems like a father figure to them
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In response to jebrumley At 05:23 pm jenni24014 Said :
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yeah, it still is.. it gets easier but the pain never goes away.. how old is your little girl?
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In response to jenni24014 At 05:11 pm jebrumley Said :
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I am so sorry you had to go through that. I am thankful everyday that I have my little girl. I know that it was very very difficult for you.
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In response to jebrumley At 05:08 pm jenni24014 Said :
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it's just hard to talk about.. they call it sids, but i call it the worst day of my life. i went to get the twins up for breakfast, they turned 7 months that day, and when i went into the room, there he was. i really can't talk about the details of what i saw without getting really worked up over it. it's still so hard to face. it was dec. 1, 2004. aka the worst day of my life. my ex had nearly nothing to do with him except the week before when it was his weekend visitation. he only had 2 of them b4 he died just because he didn't want visitation until i asked for a divorce. go figure! he says he hurts more than I do but that's nuts! the week b4 he died when my ex had a weekend w/him, he didn't change any of my kids diapers or feed them for the whole weekend! so i stopped sending them.
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In response to jenni24014 At 05:01 pm jebrumley Said :
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You had a son die? You failed to mention that. How long ago what it, and how?
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In response to kassidy21 At 04:47 pm jenni24014 Said :
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right on!
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In response to jenni24014 At 04:37 pm kassidy21 Said :
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exactly tell him to F*** off to the moon...and mistreat someone else...like a rock...not a human
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At 04:35 pm kassidy21 Said :
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woot woot...i am glad everyone agrees with you
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